Well, well, well aren’t we a bunch of saucy little minxes. Under the mammy outfits or work uniforms, lies your alter ego diva in spiked heels and a vinyl corset just wanting any excuse to break free from the mundane everyday and head off on strange and wonderful sexual encounters. Well if recent sales of Fifty Shades of Grey are anything to go by it’s very possible that the other ladies at the school gate or in the office are having exactly the same fantasies as you lately. Along comes the first explicitly erotic novel to break through the barriers of being branded pornography and us woman burst out of our shells and flock to the nearest book store and can’t burn the plastic cards quick enough in online book stores to get our very own copy.
Would I be the only one to reckon this is a sign of a desirous need to spice up the sex life a little? If this is the case for you I’ve come up with my top 5 tips for re-igniting that flame in the bedroom. Maybe you’ve become too busy lately or money worries getting you down and causing you to stress. This happens to the best of us but it’s always worth making the effort with your partner as we all know a healthy sex life has so many benefits, including: Stress relief, boots immune system and burns calories. So there’s no excuse really for you not to be getting at it.
You may find some ideas below:
The build up: First thing in the morning go in for the kill with a passionate kiss and allow it take you places. Before anything actually happens pull away and get up to get ready for the kids/work. Give him little wink and promise him you’ll make it up to him tonight and then some. Believe you me, being in work all day long with the thoughts of what he’s returning home to will drive him crazy. Add fuel to the fire by sending him a naughty little text around lunch time. You can bet your bottom dollar he’ll be home on time, if not earlier than usual.
Some help from history: So dirty talking might be out of the question for some but there are ways of doing in subtly. Talking about the past for example, it’s no secret that the first year of a relationship is usually the hottest in the bedroom. You can’t get enough of each other, so why not remind him of the time when you did this or that and how it made you feel. Remembering the excitement you once had will be an aphrodisiac and you may find it more comfortable to say than out right dirty talk.
Add a little romance: No you’re not too old for it and you do have enough time. Make the time, it’s your sex life we’re talking about here people. Kind of important you know! Light the fire and some candles, play some Marvin Gaye, run a bath – have it together, hell even throw in some rose petals. Yes, yes, yes I know. These may all seem cliché but they are age old for a reason. They work! It’s about making that extra little effort and giving your partner some time to make them feel special and remind him that you are still attracted to him or at least still want to be. Trust me ladies, that’s enough to get him all hot and bothered.
The visuals: It’s no secret that men enjoy sexy visuals. Imagine the intensity for him if it was you who gave him the sexy visuals. When he’s not expecting it undress in front of him. He’s been with you before he knows exactly what your body looks like and chances are if you’ve had sex at all in the last few months, he finds you sexy regardless of your shape. Hold his stare and strip slowly, leave him waiting whilst you do it really slowly and if you feel confident enough add in some dance. It doesn’t have to be anything too complex, just picture a number 8 and trace it with your hips. If you can manage it, add some music to the background and if you’re brave enough even use a scarf for a prop, rubbing it through your fingers and around your body. Take your time and when you get down to the panties approach him confidently (fake it if you have to) then sit over him and let the games begin.
Use some props: Yes ladies, if all else fails. It’s time to bring in the toys. It’s a sure fire way to add a little kink to your sexy time and it doesn’t necessarily mean chains and whips. Not everyone gets tuned on in the same way as Christian Grey so for those who prefer less extreme ways there are many toys, gels, oils and sexy underwear that will make your time together more exciting and adventurous. It’s even possible to get these your hands on stuff like this in any pharmacy nowadays. Give it a try it’s 2012 and stuff like this is going on a lot more than you know and I’m sure if you mention it to a friend, they’ve tried toys and props themselves. Open your mind, you never know where it will take you.